Lately I’ve been feeling overwhelmed by a feeling of guilt. No, I did not hurt anyone, I did not steal anything, I did not lie, and no, I did not go on a binge shopping trip (not that I did not want to!)
I’ve been feeling guilty because I feel that I became too materialistic, too attached to stuff. If anything dreadful happens to us, I will be devastated by a loss of material things that took years to accumulate. I realize that material possessions are just bits and pieces of our lives and not really us.
I opened an account a few weeks ago with ImpulseSave that I named “Repairs and Despairs.” However, if those “repairs and despairs” happen to us, we would be royally screwed. We are not ready for anything cataclysmic to happen. We have no emergency fund and no life insurance. We accumulated a lot of material attachments. I honestly don’t know what steps we would have to take to cope with whatever comes our way, but I have a feeling that we could end up using one of the payday loan places that aim to make it easy for people (for example, www.yetiloans.co.uk).
Life is filled with small moments, little things that we tend to brush aside because they seem too prosaic. Then something happens, we look back from a distance and see that those small moments and those little things matter the most.
When Fire Strikes
Last week my mother’s house almost burned down. It was not just a wake up call, I had plenty of those this year. It was a very traumatic and daunting thought that broke something in me: what if my house burns down?
My parents were given fifteen minutes by the firefighters to pack and evacuate their house. First, my mom made sure that her animals were ready to go with her. Then she started packing frantically, her hands shaking, her thoughts scattered.
When everything becomes black and white, literally, it offers a greater clarity and deeper insight into what really matters.
Later on, when everything was over, and no evacuation was needed, I asked my mother how she knew what to pack. She said that she had no idea what to take. She could not focus on anything but her fear of losing everything. She grabbed her wallet, some family jewelry, family photos and stood in the bedroom, trying to figure out what else to take.
What I Would Take if I am Fleeing in a Rush
Have you ever thought about what you would grab if you’d be given only fifteen minutes to pack? Neither have I. This is my first time, trying to compile a list in my head of what matters the most and what doesn’t.
My Pets. They come first in my household. I would have to make sure they are as prepared as they can be: their crates are ready, water and food packed.
Family Photos. I definitely want my family photos. I cannot leave those photos behind. Those photos are not just memories, they are reminders of who I was and who I have become.
My laptop and my cell. It might sound a little obsessive and nerdy but I do need to stay connected to the world, my family, my work, my blog, my readers. My life is on my computer, and without it I might be lost to humanity.
Wallet. It is really all I need.
Clothes and shoes. This is where it gets complicated. How do I know what to take? In fifteen minutes how much can you really pack? Not much, especially under so much stress and time pressure. My first instinct would be to grab the most comfortable shoes, to shove a windbreaker in a bag, and that would be it. After all, clothes, shoes, and furniture, and even art does not matter when you life is in danger.
I think the list above represents my real needs. My wants would have to stay behind.
Material possessions are not important after all. Of course, I would be devastated to lose everything I accumulated over the years but my real strength comes from my family. It is all that matters in the end.
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