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I was born in the Soviet Republic of Lithuania. My financial education was nonexistent for about two decades after my birth. Neither my mother, nor my grandmother ever talked to me about financial management. Money was not a taboo, it was just the way everyone was raised in our family: you lived from paycheck to paycheck, sometimes asking for advance, sometimes borrowing from friends.
I graduated from college at age twenty, got married, got my first job, and then money trouble started, followed by marriage problems. My mother was by then living in the United States, and was wrapped up in her own new life, new husband, in a new country. I was learning how to budget, plan and save. And of course, how to stash money away, spend it, and hide purchases.
Looking back, I have to admit that if I knew then what I know now, my life could have turned out differently. Do I regret it? Hell no! I probably would have lived it over just because I think that the lessons of my life are invaluable. If anything, those lessons give me plenty of post ideas for this blog.
The following points below do not represent anything new, but not being aware of them cost me quite a bit of lost and wasted money, sleepless nights, grey hair, and stress. I am not saying that knowing all the points below would set me up for a lifetime of money success. What I am attempting to say is that it would most likely make my life a little bit more responsible.
What I Wish I Knew in My 20s
- How to budget and plan in advance. I never thought “in advance.” I never thought about retirement. I never saved for my future vacation. I never planned into the future until I started thinking about my divorce.
- How to listen to your elders. Yes, they might sound stingy, cheap and not understanding. But there is truth and life long experiences in their words. Anyone can benefit from it.
- How to balance your checkbook, or your bank account, or your spreadsheet. Nothing new really, but it clears your mind when you see what you have left, and where your money went. Three pairs of shoes anyone?
- How to read pre-approved credit card offers and see evil, not free money, in them.
- How a credit card interest really works. I would have saved tons of money in the long run. I wish that I would use sparingly some readily available services on-line, and apply for a loan online a little less.
- How to save money when you start making more. Instead, I was spending more than ever. It felt good for a while.
- How to stop feeling rich when you make more money. You are not rich but stupid if you think that way. The oldie but goodie applies here: do not live within your means, live below your means, or your mistakes will catch up with you sooner than you think.
- How to stop using your emotions and start using your brains when you want things you cannot afford.
- How not to get sucked into the money borrowing mood, and instead borrow only for things that have a long-lasting value such as a house (hopefully) and education (most likely). I borrowed for the latter two AND everything else in-between. Yes, I financed shoes, dresses, cars, and even dinners out.
- How to marry wisely. My first time around was a great example of not a wise marriage. I can talk endlessly about mistakes of my first marriages, but in this post, I want to mention just one thing: if you want to marry wisely, marry your equal. I am not talking about your social status. I am talking about everything else BUT that.
- How to understand that whoever controls your finances, controls your life. I always thought I was in charge with my life. So naive and so wrong! I could not afford a bigger house because of my debt. I could not afford a vacation because of my debt. I could not afford that dress I wanted so badly because of my debt. I could not afford to go out with my friends because of my debt. It took me years to realize that I was lying to myself when I thought that I was in control of my life.
What about you? What do you wish you knew about finances in your twenties?