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My First Podcast: Consumerism Commentary and Mail-Order Brides

A few weeks ago Flexo from Consumerism Commentary asked me if I would be willing to do a podcast and talk about my mail-order brides article series. Without a second thought, without a hint of hesitation, I said “yes, of course.” We set up a date, and time, and only then it hit me:

I will be interviewed! People will hear me talk about my mother’s personal exploits as well as my own. How much more awkward than that can it get?!

I have to admit that I almost refused to give this interview. I am not a good public speaker. I(…)

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The Financial Dangers of Being a Mail-Order Bride

I’ve been asked by one of my male readers why I am not addressing the risks that men face in a mail-order bride situation. I do not address men’s risks because they are not the ones who end up in a foreign country with no means of support, fully depending financially and emotionally on their spouse.

I chose to speak from a women’s perspective for two reasons. One is pretty obvious. I based my previous posts on my own experience. Second, while I have lived in the United States I’ve met a few women who were mail-order brides. Just like my(…)

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My Mother Was a Mail-Order Bride: The American

This is Part III of My Mother Was A Mail-Order Bride. You can find Part I here and Part II here. 

He arrived to Lithuania in a fashionable but very thin coat. It was February, one of the coldest and miserable months in Lithuania. He chose to travel in the off-season to save some money on air tickets. He paid for it dearly, freezing in his fashionable American coat; taking baths in a cold bathroom with almost no heating because Lithuania was going through such troubled economic times; walking in an ice storm to an organ music concert, and falling on(…)

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The Cost Of Being A Mail-Order Bride

This is Part II of My Mother Was a Mail-Order Bride. 

Financially it did not cost us anything. Emotionally we were a nervous wreck.

The agency printed my mom’s picture and her short bio in a paper catalog. There was no Internet back then in Lithuania. All correspondence was done the old-fashioned way, through the mail.

The cost of services was passed to the American men. There was no sign-up fee, but men did have to pay $5 for each woman’s address they were interested in communicating to.

Women, most of the time, stayed on their own turf, and never traveled to meet their(…)

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My Mother Was a Mail-Order Bride

People often ask me how I came to the United States. Sometimes they give me an unpleasant smirk, wink at Beaker, my American husband, and say nothing but imply a lot. Sometimes they go as far as measure me up and down, and blatantly ask me if I was a mail-order bride. In response, I always force myself to smile and politely say that no, I was not a mail-order bride. Most of the time I suppress a really strong urge to say something mean and nasty.

But I am a polite person, generally, and I keep my mouth shut. When(…)

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