I never thought about feminism as a movement or even as a word till the year I moved to the U.S.
In 2000 a clueless me joined the Women’s Studies program because I won a scholarship. Back then I did not know that Women’s Studies was not the most popular program at the university, and for a good reason. Women’s Studies was a feminist program in a small Mormon town.
I guess you can say that I discovered American feminism at the tender age of 26.
No, I did not become a bra burning feminist. I did not turn into a radical men hater. I did not become fundamental in any respect. But there are certain rules and beliefs I stand by. They might make me a feminist. They might make me a bitch.
- I will stand up for a woman if I think she is being treated unfairly.
- I will stand up for a man if I think he is being treated unfairly.
- I will stand up for a child if I think that he or she is being treated unfairly.
- I believe in letting go of the fear to stand up for yourself.
- I am not afraid to express my opinion especially if I don’t agree with something.
- I believe that men and women should have equal opportunities: at work, in marriage, in politics, in fashion, in races, in sports… You name it.
- I believe that the pay inequality should be fought viciously.
- I believe that women should decide what to do with their own health and bodies. Not the government.
- I do not believe that because you have penis and identify yourself as a heterosexual male, you are smarter, stronger and more capable.
- I believe that femininity is not absolute.
- I believe that masculinity is not absolute.
- I will laugh at you if you tell me that feminism is synonymous with lesbianism.
- I will get really worked up if you tell me that feminism is synonymous with abortion.
- I believe that feminism is not about bra burning (I don’t get it!) but about awareness.
- I believe that if you take Viagra, I can take my birth control pills.
- I will tell you that women and not men drive home renovations.
- I can prove to you that feminism is not identity politics.
- I believe in respecting people’s rights no matter what gender or sexual orientation.
- I believe that women should be advocates for their own financial security.
- I believe that you can be a stay home mom, and still pull your financial weight.
- I believe in female financial independence.
I believe in women. Because we rock!